Jan 30, 2017 | 6 comments

Top Tips on How to Choose an Engagement Ring – for a Man

by: richard haruni

Thinking about popping the question? Or maybe he has already said yes, and now it’s time for you to choose the engagement ring. This is the real problem, what to buy? As with buying any piece of jewellery it all comes down to personality and finding the right piece that will match that personality.

Thankfully men are not bogged down with the simple white diamond solitaire engagement ring as the most popular choice – as this trend is still in its first decade the male engagement ring has no social norms or conformity society says it must adhere to. Literally anything goes, from simple bands in yellow gold or platinum to snake and dragon heads to full blown bling coloured diamonds to simple ruby solitaire rings, to wooden or leather simple bands – without the constrictions of tradition, a man’s engagement ring can be as unique as he is.

Having said all that, it’s still difficult to choose an engagement ring for a man. Men at the best of times can be extremely difficult to buy for, never mind when it’s something that will grace their finger for the rest of their lives, or at least a few years until they swap it for their wedding band.

Here are our top tips to help you decide

1. Budget. How much do you have to spend? The tradition is 2 -3 times a man’s monthly salary when buying an engagement ring for a woman. However, as we have said tradition is still not set when buying mens’ engagement rings. So how much you spend is up to you, and depends on what style of engagement ring you buy and how long he will wear it for – many men only wear the engagement ring until the wedding band replaces it – for example Michael Buble wore his simple band engagement ring till he got married then swapped it for his wedding band.

Other men, just like most women, wear a lavish engagement ring as well as their wedding band when they get married. Johnny Depp did this, and yes we know his marriagge quite spectacularly failed, but it’s the jewellery we’re talking about.

2. What’s his personality? Does he wear jewellery anyway? Rings come in all shapes and styles, chances are some will be more suited than others. If your intended already wears diamond earrings, then he will probably be keen to wear a diamond engagement ring. But if he is more reserved in character, then a simple band might be more to his liking. If he is a Hipster? Eco leather strap is a must. Biker? Skull or snake head ring! You have also got to decide if you think he will wear this ring forever, or just as a symbol until the wedding ring replaces it – if the latter is the case then you can go as untraditional as you like, as he will only be wearing it for a limited time anyway. If it is the former and this engagement ring is for life then choosing a material that is long lasting in a style that he will be willing to wear forever would be the better choice.

3. What stone? If you are buying an engagement ring with a diamond in it – then coloured diamonds, especially black and coffee coloured diamonds, are so far the most popular and both colours go very well with either yellow gold or platinum settings.

4. Declaration of Love.  As with any wedding jewellery the engagement ring is an outward declaration of love and commitment – no matter what style, size or shape it is, no matter the how big or small the budget, it’s the symbolism of your commitment and love that matters. To Read about the rise in trend of the mens engagement ring – click here. 



  1. Alfonso

    Extremely helpful! In your opinion, which one is better – three or two stone diamond ring?

  2. Joy Lewis

    Hi Alfonso, the trend that has emerged seems to be for a two stone ring. However I think it’s really up to the customer. The other trend that is also strong across both male and female engagement rings is for coloured stones, and birthstones in particular seem to be very popular for men’s engagement rings. I love the idea – which I have seen – of two matching mens engagement rings, as two stone rings holding the birthstone of each partner. However, I’m sure this could be emulated with a 3 stone ring, the centre stone being chosen by both, then the birthstones flanking it. The really great thing about male engagement rings is that the trend is growing and so far no fixed fashion has been applied to it – making this the perfect project for any jewellery designer.

    I hope this answer helps – please feel free to come back to us on this subject or any other!

  3. Thomas

    It’s great that this article explained that it is entirely up to you on how much you should spend on an engagement ring. I would say that it would be a good idea for a man to talk with his significant other about what kind of ring they would want before shopping for. Including the significant other in the ring hunting process seems like a good idea because it would ensure that they would get exactly what they want. https://www.bergesjewelrydesignco.com/custom-design-gallery

  4. Anna Davis

    I agree that you should take your budget into account. My brother told me this morning that he wants to propose to his boyfriend. I will pass your advice along to him so he can choose the perfect ring.

  5. Thomas

    It was really interesting to me when you explained that colored diamonds are a good option to go with when getting an engagement ring. My brother is wanting to get an engagement ring for his girlfriend. He should probably see if she is interested in getting a colored diamond.

  6. Ashish

    I really liked the way you talked about his personality. Literally no one has ever written about this particular topic. Thanks for this guide. I’d be glad if you can check out my blog on choosing wedding ring


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